FAQs

How is SETforMARRIAGE.com different from other dating sites?

We are looking for only one kind of member - the person (at least 18 years old) who is ready to find their potential spouse. Someone who is set for marriage (clever, huh?).

Aren't all online dating sites for people who want to get married?

No! Most sites are focused only on you as a single person. And thats really how they want you to stay - SINGLE! As soon as you enter into a serious relationship, theyve lost you as a paying customer. They may brag about how many marriages theyve fostered, but the accounting department considers it bad news!

We want to equip you to not only find THE ONE, we want to help prepare and support you as you spend the rest of your life with that person. When you join SETforMARRIAGE.com, we stick with you for the long haul. And were constantly building improvements and nurturing communities on our site to prove that.

At SETforMARRIAGE.com, we mean what we say. Marriage is awesome! We love it when marriages happen. We don't care what our account department says. We want to be known, first and foremost, as the site that is truly all about the awesomeness of marriage. If we're successful with that, the rest takes care of itself.

Is your site open to same-sex marriage?

Yes. If same-sex marriages are legal in your country, and a committed same-sex marriage is what you are seeking; we want to be there to help. We are a site of encouragement, grace, and freedom (see next question, below).

We have various points of view among those in our senior staff. That being said, we are singularly committed to showing encouragement and grace. Not prejudice. We do not pre-judge. We are here to show love to all, and to show the best attributes of our points of view.

Is this site specifically a Christian marriage site?

No. But as referenced in the question above, we are also strong believers of freedom. And that means freedom of religion expression. For example, we may show a strong Christian point of view at particular times, but we're not here to initiate or support debates. And we don't make it policy to express our (or our contributor's) religious beliefs if it means being intolerant, judgmental or belittling. There is plenty of that in cyberspace already. We believe in ALWAYS striving to put our best foot forward in terms of grace, love and encouragement (and that includes all beliefs). We have no problem with any belief system being represented when it is promoting and encouraging awesome marriages and not pitting itself against another belief system.

That being said, if the very nature of the religious expression draw your ire and your reactions show any hint of intolerance, prejudice, or belittling, then we will remove or hide your comments. It's that simple. There is nothing forcing you to participate. But why not soak it in, regardless? You never know - there might be a small nugget of wisdom that you would've otherwise missed out on. A wise person can learn from any situation.

You mention "Dynamic Interaction" on your site. What is that?

Dynamic Interaction is an approach unique to SETforMARRIAGE.com. It's about our members what most dating sites cannot - the ability to see a member's personality come out{' '} dynamically and yet, casually. You see, other dating sites show you a list of profiles. And really there's not much else that might allow you to become more familiar with them in a passive setting - to learn their sense of humor, or to see how they respond beyond what they've put up on their profile page. You might as well be looking at real estate listings.

Our site has built-in methods for you to see their personality come out dynamically, without making a huge leap into their personal space. Not only is this similar to how the offline world works, but it is also very similar to the way that popular social media sites work. With our built-in ability to allow members to have followers, you can interact without being exclusive. They (your followers) can see you post about the same sorts of things that you would post on sites like Facebook or Twitter.

What does it mean to "Follow" someone, and how to I do it?

Following someone means you are interested enough in getting to know them that you want to be in the loop of their activity. You can follow a member by clicking the Follow button on the member's profile, and on your News Feed, you will have the ability to receive notifications each time this member updates their status or adds a new photo (and that's just the beginning!). You also do not need their consent (though they have the ability to "Hide" you). You are simply showing interest.

What is a "Wink"?

A "Wink" is a way to let someone know they caught your eye. You can send someone a wink by clicking the Wink button on their profile.

What is the News Feed?

Similar to other social media sites, like Facebook, our News Feed gives you the ability to see comments and posts from the members that you follow, members in your search criteria, and news exclusively from SETforMARRIAGE.com - all according to your preferences. You even have the ability to "Like" or "Comment" on posts WITHOUT having to be directly connected to them.

Can I hide a member if I don't want them to "Follow" me?

Absolutely. We want this to be a positive experience for you. Just click the "Hide" link on the members' profile page, or underneath their posts, or comments. We make it easy.

If I "Like" or comment on someone's post that I'm interested in, won't other members (my rivals, perhaps) also see my "Likes" and comments?

Definitely not. When you comment on someone's post, it sends that person a direct message from you showing your comment and post reference in the Chat. There is never a reason for two members interested in the same person to see each other's comments or "Likes" directed toward the same person.

Can I restrict who sees my posts?

We give you the ability to block anyone you choose and they will not see your posts. With that said, you never know who may LOL at that amazingly clever post of yours, or that photo of you showing off your cooking skills (you'll thank us when you catch the unexpected eye of a fellow foodie!).

What if I want to interact more directly?

You can send private messages very easily through the App. From there - well, you're on your own. Although, you might want to check our IG and Facebook page for some nifty dating tips!

Hmmm - something doesn't seem right about this profile - could it be fake?

It happens in the online dating world. A lot. We have many filtering technologies built into the site, but these buggers still keep slipping through. Please report them through the app and we'll review profile as quickly as possible.

On the search page, there is something called "Saved Search" What is this and why should I care?

Your Saved search is the search criteria that you have selected and have designated as your main (or ideal) criteria. This is helpful most specifically in regards to who and what you see in your Search results and also saves you time of not having to reset your search parameters every time you wish to do a search.

This seems an awful lot like Instagram? I'm already on Instagram - why do I need ANOTHER social media site in my life?

That's a very relevant question. And here is an equally relevant answer… Because looking for love is a big chunk of the social scene for a single person who is actively looking. Trust us - you want to have this as a major part of your online social network. And it's okay that it's separate from your Facebook and Instagram worlds. Sure there are relationships that Facebook is responsible for fostering. But for really focusing your attention towards ONLY those who are ALSO looking for their potential spouse… we cannot be beat.

What is the difference between a free membership and a subscription?

A free membership includes: * Ability to customize a free profile page with your photos, Likes, and Interests. * Ability to search through existing profiles, including pictures * Ability to send unlimited winks * Ability to save your favorite searches * Ability to Follow members and receive updates on their activity.

A paid subscription includes all of the above features plus: * Ability to send a direct communication to another member

I cancelled my account and want to re-activate. Do I have to create a whole new profile or is my information saved?

When your Account is deactivated, we take reasonable efforts to make sure it is no longer viewable on the App. For up to 30 days it is still possible to restore your Account if it was accidentally or wrongfully deactivated. After 30 days, we begin the process of deleting your Account from our systems. We are not responsible for any information, pictures, comments, or other content that is deleted from our systems resulting from the deactivation of your Account.

If I sign up for service and decide to cancel my account, can I be reimbursed for my payment?

You may cancel your subscription, without penalty or obligation, at any time prior to midnight of the third business day following the date you subscribed. Please see and read through section 5 of our Terms and Conditions of Use.

What is your Privacy Policy?

Our Privacy Policy can be viewed here.

How can I change my method of payment after signing up for service?

All of the billing and payment methods are handled through your iTunes account and Google Play Store account.

Does my subscription limit me to people in the US, or can I engage with people around the world?

SETforMARRIAGE.com has active members all over the world and your paid subscription gives you access to message anyone on the app.

How do I cancel a paid subscription?

We hate to see you go! However, you may cancel your subscription, without penalty or obligation, at any time prior to midnight of the third business day following the date you subscribed. Please see and read through section 5 of our Terms and Conditions of Use.

I forgot my username. Help!

No worries. Head on over to the Login screen of the app and click on the forgot password link. Enter your email address for your account and we will send you a link to reset your password.

How can I deactivate my profile?

You can deactivate your profile from our app at any time. You can do so by going to your profile while logged into the app, and clicking on the Settings icon in the top left corner. From there, in the menu, there is a link to deactivate your account.

How do I contact customer care?

You can contact us through the app at any time. You can do so by going to your profile while logged into the app, and clicking on the Settings icon in the top left corner. From there, in the menu, there is a link to Contact Us.

How do I report inappropriate behavior on the site?

You can do so by going to your profile while logged into the app, and clicking on the Settings icon in the top left corner. From there, in the menu, there is a link to Contact Us. Also, if you see a photo or post from another member that you wish to report, you can do so by selecting the three dots next to the image and a menu box will pop up and you can select Report.